Sure, when you’re in the mood for some quality cuddle time with your man, you know it says something about your relationship. But have you thought about what it’s saying about you as one-half of this snuggle sesh? After all, the way a dominant, always-in-control woman cuddles probably isn’t the same as her bestie who prefers to feel protected or even vulnerable. So choose which style you default to the most—because yes, we realize you likely do a hefty mix of each (you’ve gotta be comfortable!)—then read on to find out what you might be revealing to your partner-in-cuddling-crime.
You’re the smaller one in this bodies-intertwined scenario, which means you prefer to feel protected. It’s likely that you rock the boss lady role all day (whether that’s in the corner office or pullin’ mommy duty like woah doesn’t matter), so you like to unwind and let someone else take the reigns. That means you like to be taken care of and supported, but can’t be suffocated either (which explains why you can’t stand his legs all over you. Follow the spoon!). It’s all about balance for you, so don’t give up your weeklyShondaland with the girls, or that monthly book club. Not only is it good for your relationship—experts say it’s important to foster hobbies and interests outside of the relationship—but it satisfies your need for independence, too.
It’s probably very difficult for you to relinquish control, no matter where you are or who you’re with. You may feel insecure more often than you’d like to admit, and your husband taking the more “vulnerable” cuddling position could be a subtle form of reassurance that he needs you as much as you need him. It’s also how you like to show affection—rather than letting him be the one to initiate (because, again, you’re a take-charge kind of gal), this is your way of displaying emotion when you’re behind closed doors. We’re not surprised if you’re also the one to grab his hand when walking down the street, plan your weekly date night, and initiate important relationship conversations. Just remember, he might want to surprise you every now and then, too (although with your need-to-know attitude, pulling that off is pretty tough). So do the guy a solid and, even though you picked which night is date night, let him choose the activity.
On His Chest
At the end of the day, it’s important that you have someone you can lean on. Before you met your husband, that was your roommate (wine night for the win), and before that, your siblings. You don’t really like to go through things alone—you feel more confident in your decision-making if you have a listening ear to reassure you or provide insight into something you might not be seeing. You like being around people, but not in an overbearing way. There’s no need for the spotlight to shine on you—in fact, you prefer to play the quiet, content, supportive role. It’s rare that you find yourself in a sticky situation, as you’re usually the first one to try to smooth things over when a situation starts to get hairy.
Under His Arm
You prefer not to have your body draped all over his when it’s time to cuddle—a simple arm over your shoulder is enough to satisfy you. That makes you a lover of the classic, romantic gestures, so he’d do well to take you out to a movie…and perhaps dance with you in the middle of a quiet street on the walk home (hey, it worked for Ryan Gosling). You view your relationship as an equal partnership, and while the amount you have to lean on him fluctuates throughout life experiences, you prefer to keep things balanced as much as possible. The two of you talk things over before any big decisions or purchases are made, but that doesn’t mean you need to text him prior to any decision-making. You know how to stand on your own two feet and think for yourself—but it’s nice knowing he’s there. You know, just in case.
Legs Draped Over
Hello, Sasha Fierce! You’re an in-your-face kind of woman who isn’t a fan of playing coy or beating around the bush. You know what you want, and you’re not afraid of, err, marking your territory. Drama may follow you around—it’s unlikely that there are calm, “easy” fights in your mind—but that’s just because you feel so passionately about the things (and people) that matter most to you. Which also means you’re fiercely loyal, so if anyone tries to hurt you—or your hubby—well, they can expect you to make some noise.
Culled from http://www.redbookmag.com/