As a long term, older single woman, my relationship credentials are as follow:

❤️16 years, 1 marriage
💔19 years post marriage, xxx relationships/entanglements/situationships

I have many years experience of both worlds which makes me an expert in each area and therefore strongly positioned to speak on both institutions and experiences.

🚫A long term married person can not speak on the experiences of single people…

❌️And a never married person can not have much to say about marriage.

✔️BUT ME, I be oga in both areas 😝🤪😜
Which is why I am a Relationship Expert and talk ao much about them😏😉

70% of my articles and posts are on matters of the heart. I am fully aware that many of my friends particularly male friends, think I am a feminist always supporting women and bashing men 😭

As much as this may appear to be the case, it could not be any further from the truth.

I seem to support women because women have been on the receiving end of all sorts of male cruelty and societal bias over the centuries. Women are made physically weaker, softer, more sensitive and more emotional. Unfortunately, these traits have made women easy prey for men who are made stronger, louder and brasher, like playground bullies to pick on.

But I appear to bash men, not because I hate men (😜😜😜) but because I have seen several cases in my adult life of men treating women like 💩💩💩 (even those they claim to love) and as sub human, play things and toys, deserving nothing but demeaning treatment and easily discarded objects. Worthless things to be used, abused and dumped😪

I don’t hate men. I cannot hate men. I cannot hate what God created.
Besides I have a son, a brother and numerous cousins and uncles (even if some of them are terrible shitty men!)

I want our men to be better and do better.

I regularly weep with women stuck in loveless marriages and others whose wake up calls are blows, punches and vitriolic abuse. Ironically, many of these present public fronts of glossy images of loved up couples by whose yardstick women like me are judged. OMA SE O.

I want men to remember that their primary assignment is to love women and desire to care for us and protect us. To see women first as creatures to be pampered and not as enemies and rivals to be crushed and destroyed, because frankly speaking, that is how many men see women.

Sadly, many women have developed the masculine characters of the men they’ve been [negatively] nurtured or mentored by.

Women have become hard, cold, insensitive, crafty, insincere, disloyal, unfaithful and aggressive. All character traits that are foreign to women folk, but characters that they’ve learnt and evolved into.

Characters many of them grew up with and/or were subjected to at the hands of fathers (treatment of their mothers) boyfriends, partners, characters in movies, public influencers, husbands etc

As a result unfortunately, many men have more hatred for women and see them as even less deserving of love and affection. Many comments by men towards women on different social media groups and platforms will almost make you weep and definitely be afraid for women, especially the younger generation.

I have 2 daughters and 1son, and I pray for several grandchildren of both sexes.
I would hate for my daughters and granddaughters to be victims of abuse…or my sons and grandsons to be abusers of women.

Our children are watching.
What they see us practice will form a great part of what they will become

🟥DISCLAIMER FOR THE EASILY TRIGGERED: This, like my other articles may speak directly or indirectly to many people. However it is not to be taken as a stereotypical generalisation of either men or women
It will not apply to all and is not intended to.