The line between love and hate is often very thin and can sometimes be blurred. Its also quite easy to cross over the line from love to hate if one is not careful and due attention not paid.

One can be hateful, dismissive or even cold towards one’s love interest and this is mainly in response to perceived lack of interest or required attention from the partner. Even in spite of, and most likely when the love is still truly alive.

Two people deeply in love can be painfully and unfortunately unaware of each other’s emotional needs or how to meet them, thus causing either or both of them to begin to act with indifference towards one another.

Some actually act up just to get the partners attention!

If anyone thinks every married couple who goes through divorce is because they fell out of love, one will be grossly mistaken.

Divorce usually happens when 1 partner has felt habitually neglected, or both parties fail to communicate properly or listen to each other closely over a prolonged period of time, thereby creating an ever increasing gulf that then becomes difficult to fill.

If most divorced couples were to be asked to speak the God’s honest truth, they will tell you they still have deep feelings for each other… but the love ceased being enough because they started to feel irrelevant and inconsequential to their partner.

This is also the point where many partners withdraw, stop communicating or complaining to their partners, and some are tempted to start to seek attention and affection elsewhere.

Because at the end of the day, we are all social, spiritual & emotional beings with social, spiritual and emotional needs of companionship, friendship, passion and affection.
And marriage or relationships with other emotionally connected partners are where such needs are meant to be fulfilled. When partners become too unbothered or too busy to meet their partner’s needs, they are giving the signal that can be misread as “I’m no longer interested” or “You don’t matter to me”

Love never dies.
But it can go seriously cold and turn to ice. This conversion often manifests as hate. And when that line from love to hate is crossed, it can become almost impossible to come back from.

©️BJ2025