MY THOUGHT FOR TODAY: KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH, BE MORE CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF

My dear lovely friends, take time out during these early days of this new year and review your relationships and involvements.

Are they working for you?
Are you being fulfilled?
Are you getting back as much as you’re putting in..or is it just a one-sided affair with you doing the most giving?
Are you finding any kind of satisfaction from it?
Are you happy in the relationship?
Can you count on your partner to be there for you in time of need or trouble?
Do you get to spend time together?
How highly do you rate your importance to them?
How highly do they esteem you?
Do they make you feel good about yourself? Do you get their full attention when you are together?
Can you boldy vouch for their commitment to you?
Do they make you feel like they are doing you a favour by being with you?!!

There is a great difference between a relationship and a fling. The problem is that many people are just in a fling but believe that they are in a relationship. You can be deeply into someone but they are just not that into you.

And more often than not, the signs are always there but we choose to ignore them, make excuses for our “partners” bad behaviour towards us and take the stupid flimsy ones they give.

Friends – male and female – it’s time to start rating ourselves and esteeming ourselves highly. Don’t let anyone make you a back up plan or alternative.

Dont allow yourself to be made second class partner in your relationship. Do not become a victim of unrequited love.

And most certainly do not turn yourself into someone else’s sex object!

I was once in a Bible Study class where a brother boldy said that when he was younger, he had a nice Christian girl he was planning to marry safety tucked away, but he also had another girlfriend for the sole purpose of sex. Unfortunately this other girl would have believed she had a chance with him.

Many are in that kind of relationship today. And something deep in our spirit will be telling us something is wrong. But insecurity, lack of self esteem and desperation will cause us to ignore what our spirit is telling us.

Let your friends, lovers, partner and even spouse (YES) place you on the pedestal you rightly belong and not on the floor where they can trample all upon you like a doormat.

I know many folks who have to practically beg to see their so called partner; calling and messaging but always getting empty promises and flimsy excuses. But the only moment the other person needs them, all they do is beckon and the poor love is dropping everything and PHIAM!! Out the door to answer the call!!!

Guys, you deserve to be treated like a King/Queen that you are. And if you ain’t, GET OUT OF THERE! Because while you’re still stuck on stupid, mr/s right is coming along and walking right pass.

Shame, some married folks are also permanently stuck in a one-sided relationship and suffering serious unrequited love. But once married you stick it out.

But if you are not married, stop wasting time being tolerated as an alternative. You were not created to be someone’s plan B or second best. Alas, many are unhappily settling for crumbs of affection being dropped from their “partner’s” table.

Is any man or woman actually that important or more important than you?
Why should you suffer emotionally and mentally while they are having the time of their life.
Your so called partner is out there enjoying life and having fun every weekend while you are stuck at home watching Nollywood!

YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN YOU THINK.

Take control over your own life today.

It’s a new year. Try something new.

Know your own self worth….and be confident in yourself.