It’s always difficult to know when a relationship is over but sometimes the answer is right in front of you, you just need it to be pointed out. We’ve got expert advice on how to know when it’s time to call it a day with your .


Record how often you fight with your significant other. Fighting can be a healthy and productive way to communicate and resolve conflict. However, fighting incessantly and spending most of your time together engaged in fights may be a sign that your relationship is nearing its end.

  • Picking fights over inconsequential things might be a cry for attention or a way to lash out, and could be a sign of the end.
  • Leaving an argument feeling angry, resentful, bitter, and unwilling to make-up are signs that your relationship is failing.


Observe how frequently you discuss your feelings. An important cornerstone to relationships is communicating your own needs and feelings and understanding the needs and feelings of your partner.  If you feel like your significant other doesn’t understand your feelings, and that you are unaware of how your partner is feeling, then your relationship is likely on the rocks.

  • Failure to communicate can start small by simply not asking how each other’s days went. But this can evolve into neglecting each others feelings altogether.
  • If you find yourself not listening to your partner or your partner not listening to you when you talk, then you are not effectively communicating, and trouble is near.

Notice how you talk about the future together. Refusing to discuss what the future has in store for you and your partner may be an avoidance technique to deal with the fact that you cannot imagine being with your significant other for much longer. This may also mean that you cannot envision a future with your significant other in it, which is a sign that it may be time to let go.

  • If you have never talked about getting married or if you want kids, then you might want to consider that this is not the person for you.
  • If you’ve delayed responding to your friend’s wedding invitation, planning a vacation together, or spending the holidays together because you don’t know whether the relationship will last that long, then it may be time to end the relationship.

Consider the level of verbal affection with your partner. Affectionate communication is an important cornerstone to the development and sustainment of a relationship. When verbal expressions of love cease, it might be a sign that you are unable to think of anything nice to say or you just do not want to say anything nice. The absence of verbal affection and communication is a red flag signaling the end of a relationship.

  • Lack of complements, verbal “I love you’s,” and random love notes and text messages are all signs that the relationship is in trouble.


Notice the way you talk about your partner to others. People in a healthy relationship are excited to share positive attributes or accomplishments of their partner with others. When you are speaking negatively about your partner when you are with friends, is a sign of relationship distress. Speaking about your partner in a negative way shows a loss of respect and likely indicates larger issues in your relationship.

  • There’s a difference between talking to a close friend about problems in your relationship and telling your friends that you’re sick of or unhappy with your significant other. But if you are confiding in a close friend about your relationship woe’s frequently, it is time to end the relationship.

Acknowledge your level of excitement about your partner. Your partner used to give you butterflies in you stomach but now you are just not that excited when he is around. If you’re feeling constantly bored when you’re with your significant other, or even bored at the thought of seeing or meeting up with him, then your heart may not be in the relationship.

  • Your relationship is not going to be exciting at every minute. But you should feel some level of anticipation for him to come home at night or when you go out on a date with him.
Assess your sexual attraction towards your partner. Physical attraction is important to both men and woman, especially in the first seven years of a relationship.  Your physical attraction is likely what first drew you two together. But if you find yourself ignoring or even feeling disgusted or repulsed by your partner, your relationship is not going for the long haul.

Determine whether you still share common interests and goals. You might have had a lot in common when you first met, but you may be finding that you don’t share the same goals, interests, or beliefs anymore. As your relationship has progressed, you have both grown into more mature individuals, and consequently, your ideals and goals may have grown apart. Take time to reassess whether you and your partner are on the same page and have similar goals.

  • Conversations that are limited or unbearable or an inability to agree on professional goals and personal beliefs are signs that you do not share common goals in life any longer.
  • Having your own independent goals and interest is perfectly healthy in a relationship. The trouble starts when your core values and beliefs begin to diverge and you cannot find anything you share.


Evaluate the frequency and passion of your sex life. If you’ve been in a dry spell for what feels like forever and don’t even desire for sex, then it may be a sign of larger issues in your relationship.

  • Try to remember when the last time you had sex, and if you did it just to check it off your to-do list, and whether or not your received satisfaction and pleasure from it. If it has been a while and is more of a task, then the relationship is not likely going to last.
  • Visit a doctor to see if your low sex drive is due to hormonal imbalances from pregnancy or menopause or, if you are a man, if you are experiencing low testosterone.



Assess you and your partner’s faithfulness to each other. Infidelity can destroy a relationship because it shatters the trust and loyalty you have worked hard at obtaining. It is possible to survive infidelity, but if it becomes routine for one or both of you, then it is time to end the relationship.

  • Unless you have established that you have an open relationship, infidelity is difficult to overcome. When one or both of you is unfaithful on a routine basis, and it becomes almost expected and acceptable, then your relationship is likely over.
  • Flirting is a form of infidelity, depending on your intent. If you flirt often because you are seeking affection or having dreams of being with that person, you are emotionally cheating on your partner, and you need to address why


Consider how much of your lives you are participating in together. Though it’s important to maintain your independence even in a relationship, if your lives don’t overlap at all, then you are in trouble. When you always hang out with your friends without your partner, are unaware of your partner’s daily life and routine, make weekend plans that do not include your significant other, or make no effort to include her in your plans, your relationship is on the brink of ending.


  1. i dont know if i am still interested in my marriage. just fed up of his lack everything. i feel bad wanting to let go, but i cant keep living an unhappy or satisfied life.

    1. Have you tried talking to your husband? Try taking him away for a “dirty weekend” away from the kids and everyone else and see if you can reconnect. Could be your relationship just needs some jump-starting and refreshing and two days of being alone together could just do the trick. Remember to pack some flirty lingerie and skimpy clothes. Make sure that you do a lot of before and after sex conversing but avoid arguing. Be his sexy girlfriend & lover on this trip and use the opportunity to take him down memory lane of when you were still dating before marriage and kids happened
      Also, consider a total makeover. Guys are known to sometimes “wake up” when their wife suddenly becomes sexy all over again.

      I wish you the best. BJx

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